Either love means nothing or us humans lost the meaning a long time ago. I guess it was the best thing before slice bread. But now that slice bread is out, who needs love.
We fall in lust, infatuation, in love with a flawed reflection of what the ideal person is supposed to be like. When relationships or potential relationships don't work, you say you loved that person more than anything else but it just wasn't working. You comfort yourself by saying he or she already messed up before and you gave them a chance but this is the last straw.
I encourage no one to stay in a relationship or marriage where they are constantly being abused physically or mentally. Same can be said where one or both parties neglect their vows.
Problem is, it is easy to forget that the other person is human. Just cuz the person "loves you", the pain is that much greater if you get hurt as a result of something the person did. And it's so much easier to forgive your enemy than your "lover". It is the mindset that that person knows ur likes and dislikes and therefore, it's a sin to disappoint or hurt you. The concept is understandable but somewhat misguided based on the fact that we are human. This is not an attempt to excuse the other person's actions. However, you being human usually makes you act out of accordance with the definition of true love. So it's an eye for an eye. That's not love
I am at the point where I think humans are incapable of demonstrating true love.
Based on this conclusion, it is next to impossible for anyone to say "I love you" and it has any great impact on me. Am I gone cold? No. I'm just more conscious now that "love" is a thing of convenience, as long as you treat me how I want to be treated, then I love you
**the views expressed are mine, be free to disagree...after all I disagree with every one of you**
--written June 12, 2009
Kavon McKenzie Copyright 2010
